{"id":832,"date":"2016-05-26T22:46:29","date_gmt":"2016-05-27T05:46:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.slowbloom.com\/blog\/?p=832"},"modified":"2016-05-31T20:04:44","modified_gmt":"2016-06-01T03:04:44","slug":"reading-the-other","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.slowbloom.com\/blog\/2016\/05\/reading-the-other\/","title":{"rendered":"Reading the Other"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I don\u2019t quite know how to start this, so I\u2019m just going to start. It feels like it\u2019s a tangle of things, but maybe there\u2019s a knife to cut this Gordian knot.<\/p>\n<p>A friend told me last week that he doesn\u2019t like first person POV because he doesn\u2019t like being <strong>forced<\/strong> to experience things from another person\u2019s point of view. I can kind of go along with that, but his example really upset me. He said he doesn\u2019t want to read from inside the POV of a teenage girl.<\/p>\n<p><em>Quelle horror<\/em>. I mean, what could be worse than being a teenage girl? Apparently nothing.<\/p>\n<p>He went on to justify his stance by saying that third person POV is okay, because it allows him to <strong>empathize<\/strong> alongside the character. First person forces him to <strong>be<\/strong> the character.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m going to go on a slight tangent now. In the last couple of years there have been a lot of calls on social media for diverse representation in fiction, television and movies. More recently there has been a call out of whitewashing, which is using white actors to portray characters that were originally non-white. (Hashtags: <em>weneeddiversebooks<\/em> which spawned the site <a href=\u201chttp:\/\/weneeddiversebooks.org\/looking-back\/>We Need Diverse Books<\/a>; <em>whitewashedOUT<\/em> is from the Asian-American community. More on that in this <a href=\u201chttp:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2016\/05\/29\/movies\/asian-american-actors-are-fighting-for-visibility-they-will-not-be-ignored.html?_r=0\u201d>piece from the NYT<\/a>. <em>ownvoices<\/em> is another hashtag commenting on the need for people to tell their own stories.) <\/p>\n<p>I said this on Twitter the other day, because there were some people who expressed a desire to see Captain America get a boyfriend.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">On the gayification of everything: we queers are HUNGRY for representation. Hints and winks and nods are so 20th Century.<\/p>\n<p>&mdash; Jill S. (@outseide) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/outseide\/status\/735323705954455552\">May 25, 2016<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve seen similar sentiments about giving Elsa (from Frozen) a girlfriend.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, back to my point, and I DO HAVE ONE. When I was in high school, I read <em>Catcher in the Rye<\/em>. I don\u2019t remember if it was required reading, but it was required in my mind. IT IS TOLD FROM THE POV OF A TEENAGE BOY. OMG. And let me say, further, that almost nothing I read in high school reflected any of my identities or realities. I have read countless stories from the POV of people who are nothing like me.<\/p>\n<p>Gah, this makes me so angry and frustrated. For me, one of the reasons to read is to experience something different than myself, and since most of what\u2019s available doesn\u2019t reflect my identities, I\u2019ve learned to enjoy those things. It is a privilege to have so much material to choose from and still have things left over that all reflect one\u2019s identity.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d also like to make the case for reading (and otherwise enjoying various types of media) that don\u2019t reflect white heterosexual cisgendered male realities. As I said in my tweet, we are tired of scraps, of hints, of winks and nods. We are tired of only being sidekicks and punchlines. None of this is new. I\u2019m nowhere near to being the first person to say any of these things.<\/p>\n<p>Since I\u2019m ranting specifically about first person, I\u2019m going to keep it in the first person. I am tired of not getting my happy ever afters, of always being the villain, of being alone, or being the monster. I\u2019m exhausted at being seen as less than, as other, as subhuman. And it&#8217;s incredibly painful to not see myself reflected in the world around me. It makes me feel quite lonely. Literally one of the most comforting things I can hear is, &#8220;You are not alone.&#8221; There are many ways I can tell I&#8217;m not alone, and seeing reflections are constant reminders of that.<\/p>\n<p>A couple of years ago there was a fantastic essay written by a woman about how she hated the <a href=\u201dhttp:\/\/www.newstatesman.com\/culture\/2013\/08\/i-hate-strong-female-characters\u201d>strong female character<\/a>. <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Sherlock Holmes gets to be brilliant, solitary, abrasive, Bohemian, whimsical, brave, sad, manipulative, neurotic, vain, untidy, fastidious, artistic, courteous, rude, a polymath genius. Female characters get to be Strong.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p> Men get to be complicated and messy and all kinds of things in fiction. Women, not so much. Same for other groups. As an aside, I think <em>strong<\/em> means fully-fleshed out and humanized, but it&#8217;s come to mean what the writer above defines.<\/p>\n<p>I want to touch on erasure and <em>ownvoices<\/em> a little bit more. There is media that is <em>not made for you<\/em>. I\u2019m not saying you have to understand it. Or like the experience. I&#8217;m asking you to consider the possibility of a world that is different and <strong>richer<\/strong> for having these representations in the world. There are people, like me, who don&#8217;t understand your world, and we are crowbarred into it from a very young age. <\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m also going to recommend a few titles written in first person that fall under the <em>ownvoices<\/em> umbrella:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>Outlander<\/em> by Diana Gabaldon<\/li>\n<li><em>Love Is The Plan The Plan Is Death<\/em> by James Tiptree (I&#8217;m not going to get into gender identity\/policing, if you weren&#8217;t aware, Tiptree was a male pseudonym for a female writer)<\/li>\n<li><em>Blackass<\/em> by A. Igoni Barrett<\/li>\n<li><em>Tides<\/em> by Betsy Cornwall<\/li>\n<li><em>The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms<\/em> by NK Jemison<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Although these works aren&#8217;t written in first person, I recommend checking out <a href=\"http:\/\/www.silviamoreno-garcia.com\/blog\/signal-to-noise-2\/\">Signal to Noise<\/a> by Silvia Moreno\u00ad Garcia and <a href=http:\/\/ghoststar.net\/blog\/shadowshaper\">Shadowshaper<\/a> by Daniel Jose Older, too.<\/p>\n<p>Consider this an invitation, my friend, into my world. The lenses may feel uncomfortable and alien, but I can pretty much assure you this: it isn&#8217;t going to kill you, but the lack of representation makes it a hell of a lot harder for the rest of us. <\/p>\n<p>If any of you reading this have other recommendations, please leave them in the comments! My preference would be to for works that are written by a member of the group presenting that POV. Thanks!<\/p>\n<p>*<i>The title of this blog post is an oblique reference to the fantastic work of Nisi Shawl and Cynthia Ward: <a href=\"http:\/\/writingtheother.com\/\">Writing the Other<\/a>, which is a program to help writers understand how to better represent people who are different from themselves in their writing.<\/i><\/p>\n<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_pop\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/button100x23.png\" style=\"border:0px; width:100; height: 23; \" alt=\"Share Button\" \/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Linkedin\",\"StumbleUpon\",\"Reddit\",\"Print\");var hupso_icon_type = \"labels\";var hupso_background=\"#EAF4FF\";var hupso_border=\"#66CCFF\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_url=\"\";var hupso_title=\"Reading%20the%20Other\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/share.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I don\u2019t quite know how to start this, so I\u2019m just going to start. 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